Fear, is defined by two different aspects of our relationships. As I see it today, it is the fear of commitment and the fear of the other person in a relationship. Fear of commitment in a relationship can happen to the best of us, when we have had one, or several, tough relationships or tough times growing up in this lifetime. Unfortunately unless we face these occurrences fears head on, these experiences can help to keep that fear alive.
Why do we keep carrying around that fear? Very simple – many times we don’t know any better, and other times we are just afraid to be vulnerable, or to allow ourselves to open up. Honestly, I have come to learn that this fear can only bring unhappiness in the end.
From my angle, I see again that fear lies in the way that we grew up and what we really need to look at is our own level of self-confidence. Sometimes we have been abused as a child and our self-esteem is tarnished. I wrote on these subjects before, but what we need to tackle now, is on how we have chosen to build up our self-confidence and self-esteem. This is a very important start.
I learned from my own healing and working with my truth, that there is no cure until it is handled at the root of the problem. Not just by the symptoms of today’s problems. Understanding the early stage of the problem and identify it is the answer to a happier existence. It really does not matter why things happened in the first place, as long as we learn to accept our unfortunate situation. Forgive, bless it, and let it go. It won’t take a lifetime, for things to change in your life from that point on.
Most times, this process is very hard and painful to go through. Your old life experiences, and your energy level, might go to the bottom. But remember why you are doing it in the first place. It is your life after all, and your own personal responsibility. Without those two ingredients you may keep running in a circle.