and we all have temptations that we are faced with and scenarios, for conforming in a world, where we do not know who we are.
I was fourteen when four boys cornered me on a football field. I did not recognize them and they may have been from the East side school, yet, the incident happened and changed my perspective on freedom and safety in a big way. These boys surrounded me and tried to push me into oral copulation. I got really mad and for some reason, they backed down. But I went away very frightened and freaked out. This has challenged my trust— in men.
There were three times, that I was sexually assaulted in my youth by someone outside my home. The one above was the first, the second was a man driving down the Minneapolis road on a snowy winter’s day. I was walking and he came up beside me while pleasuring himself to make sure that I could see. It was a brief encounter, but one that added to my fears.
The third time was a music guy at Capitol Records. He was meeting with me for what I thought was to discuss a record label signing. I was naive and said yes, when he invited me to his room for further discussion. He came out of the bathroom naked and started forcing himself upon me. I left crying, and a few days later, he sent me a box of cds and a note that said “I’m Sorry”. Oh… Ok
Its important for these assaults to stop and for discussions and prosecutions to take place on a regular basis. Immediately! In years past, rarely did people, (especially women) open up and report these sexual assaults. I personally did not feel I could confide in anyone and talking about it, I feared, being treated like a whore and thought of as promiscuous. That is how I felt then. Today are coming alive to the importance of honoring the moment and speaking up with the truth as it occurs.